December 30, 2021- The Grief Journey


As I contemplate this journey, my heart grieves for others that are also on this journey, some just in their first few steps.

I in NO WAY see myself as any kind of expert, or more knowledgeable than anyone else. I see myself as one of a multitude of people who find themselves on this painful and life changing journey. I appreciate the response and feedback that I receive. Some have even begun to suggest future topics for me to share my perspective on. We shall see how that develops.

My hope is that as I share my experience that maybe something I say can be a small help to someone else.

All sarcasm aside, I feel a sense of victory on “surviving” Christmas. It was a wonderful Christmas with some VERY challenging moments. I am thankful for four passionate little girls that contributed a lot of energy and passion to my Christmas this year, especially a little 15-month-old who thankfully was totally oblivious to any emotional stress from the holidays. Her energy and smiles kept us all on our toes and laughing, most of the time.

I set a mental goal to make it through December 26th, Christmas and my first Sunday resuming my preaching and teaching responsibilities at church. For me that was a big deal and I am glad to say, I (we) did it. Even getting the Christmas tree and stockings stored for another year was a point of personal celebration. In hindsight I feel this past weekend was a sort of turning point for me. There will still be emotional times, reminders and triggers probably for the rest of my life, but I feel that I may have turned a corner on this journey.

Some of the things I learned this Christmas season:

  • it’s okay not to be the life of the party
  • it’s okay to admit that you are struggling
  • it’s okay to decline some invitations
  • it’s okay to have to eat all the dessert by yourself
  • it’s okay to change up traditions
  • it’s okay to be real and transparent
  • it’s okay to admit that you’re not okay
  • it’s okay to take down the tree the day after Christmas
  • it’s all okay because those that love you will be there with you and for you.

I’m looking forward to the New Year, a fresh start and a clean slate. I look forward to the life that the Lord has given me to live in this new season; the things He has for me to do, the people I get to love, serve and do life with and the blessings He has in store for all of us as we travel the road of our own grief journeys.
The picture is of another one of my discoveries as I have worked through stuff, I added the pics, but the frame was tucked away in a closet.

As always, thanks for the love and support!

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