18 Months Later - April 27, 2023

April 7 marked 18 months since Shari’s departure from this world and my journey through grief.

April 9 was her second birthday in heaven and would have been her 61st in this life. 

18 months, about 540 days, almost 13,000 hours, over 770,000 minutes…the pain has diminished, still present but not as raw, and the emotions are more stable, most of the time. Life continues; it is different than before, but life is good again, and it can be good again for you too. It has not been easy, but we have the capacity, with the Lord’s help and the support of loved ones, to make it through.

From all I have learned about grief, and it’s been a lot, we won’t get to the end of the journey on this side of eternity, but we keep walking, finishing the race the Lord has placed before each of us, knowing that He walks beside us, even carrying us when we get too weary to keep going.

God’s grace continues to be sufficient, and I am amazed at His grace and how He can bring about good out of the most difficult experiences of our lives. God is still working out His purposes in my life, fulfilling His promises each and every day. My life will never be the same, and I will never be the same; God is the constant, unchanging foundation for my life, He hasn’t changed. His purposes and plans are bigger and grander than mine.

Soon, I will be sharing about something new that is going on in my life, a new tool that I have received to help those on their grief journeys. Until then, blessings to each and every person who reads this message, especially those on their grief journey.

Here are a few conclusions about resilience I have gained from this season:

  1. Satan, our enemy, will use any tool at his disposal to bring us down. Jesus says that Satan “comes to steal, kill and destroy.” He doesn’t take the life of our loved one, but he sure will take the situation and try to turn our hearts away from God.
  2. God has placed this incredible ability to be resilient within each of us, yes you too! It isn’t easy, but we can choose it for our lives, or you can choose to sit right where you are. You can be resilient!
  3. There is nothing wrong with being “here” in our grief and loss, but it is not okay to remain “here.” God isn’t finished with you yet, so keep moving forward, even when you feel like you can’t. Giving up cannot be an option!!!
  4. We all have gone through, are going through, or will go through difficult times that we will need to “recover” from. Be as prepared as you can before the hard time comes, determine in advance to be resilient, to bounce back or recover from the difficulty, whatever it may be.
  5. Refuse to allow the enemy any room in your life, remember, “Greater is He (Jesus) that is in you, than he (Satan) that is in the world.”

We can do this, friends! Encourage one another, pray for one another, and be resilient; God created you that way.

Many blessings!!!


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