April 7, 2022 - The Grief Journey

Today marks six months on this journey that no one chooses.

It’s an interesting concept that we can’t numb the bad feelings and not also numb the good feelings.

I have learned so very much over these months and realize I have many more lessons to learn. I am not alone on this journey by any means. I have met many new friends on this road, many that I may not have met if it wasn’t for our shared journeys. I have had several longtime friends that have joined the grief journey over the past few months as they have lost a loved one.

We all have suffered loss of some kind, your loss may not have been the death of a loved one, but you have suffered loss. In our culture we are told to hide the pain of loss, to numb it, to pretend it isn’t there, or to put on a happy face and pretend that everything is fine, when everything within us is screaming, “I’m not okay, I’m a total mess!!!” God has given us the gift of grief to process our hurt and the pain of loss. When we ignore it, we are setting ourselves up to deal with it later in life. I choose to deal with it now, as painful as it may be.

Yes, you read that right, I have come to see grief as a gift that helps me emotionally transition from my pain to the purposes and future God has for me.

I can choose to remain in my pain, or I can grieve and allow God to heal my heart and prepare me to embrace the future He has for me. A future I believe will be one filled with God’s glory and blessing.

I am realizing that I will always miss Shari, however, I also realize that God’s promises still stand and that my future and hope rest in Him. I choose to daily move forward, even on the days I don’t want to or the days that I feel I get pushed back a few steps. The pain of loss is real, the joy of healing is just as real. God will use the pain we experience in this life to fulfill His purpose in us and though us.

As always, I appreciate your responses, concerns and prayers! I appreciate the incredible support I have received and continue to receive from my “community” of family and friends.
Blessings to all!!!

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